Hubby & I met through a phone dating service except we never replied to each other. He went out with a friend of mine who wasn’t sure he was right for her. Said friend seemed to be more impressed with his 4×4 & his gold Mastercard than Kelvin himself. For their second date she tricked me into going along with them (by saying she would like my opinion of him) on a drive about an hour north of Winnipeg to a lake & back. The drive was supposed to be the end of the date but Kelvin didn’t seem to get the hint. Friend (E) was going to have dinner at my place because I was teaching her how to type so she could get a better job. Kelvin suggested we get a movie for when E was finished with her lesson & more or less invited himself to my place.
While E was practicing her typing, Kelvin & I made some snacks & munchies in the kitchen. We got along well. We laughed the whole time. E fell asleep during the movie & Kelvin & I continued to get to know each other. I could sense some attraction between us but definitely kept things on a friend only basis. Kelvin had surmised E was “not that into him” & instead of continuing to date her, he thought he would rather date me. When E awoke from her nap she noticed the difference in Kelvin’s behavior & got ticked off.
When they left my home E & Kelvin had a big fight. Kelvin’s main point was that E didn’t want him anyway, so why shouldn’t he be able to go out with someone he liked better (even if I was her friend). Then when he asked her if she would be okay with it if he asked me out, she got all upset & said she would prefer he not date me. Then she phoned me & was totally bummed out he wanted to go out with me. I reassured her I would not do anything to damage our friendship. Over the next couple weeks she continued to rant about Kelvin’s behavior & finally admitted she thought we would like each other when she introduced us.
In the meantime, Kelvin was still calling her to convince her to let him date me. He was also calling me, but I was not accepting his calls. Then she finally gave us her blessing to date each other.
In the end, the friendship did not survive.
El Guapo
Sep 25, 2013 @ 06:36:51
When I ran into my girl after years of not seeing her, it was because she had gone to lend moral support to a friend of hers breaking up with a guy in teh bar I hung out in at the time.
Funny how things go…
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benzeknees
Sep 25, 2013 @ 08:47:36
Isn’t it nice for you she was there – maybe fate played a hand?
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El Guapo
Sep 25, 2013 @ 08:48:05
Possibly. However it happened, I’m glad it did!
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pouringmyartout
Sep 25, 2013 @ 08:48:13
Maybe she was there for just this purpose… now can I please borrow him sometime… just for a while… I will bring him back…
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benzeknees
Sep 25, 2013 @ 08:53:47
You want to borrow my Kelvin? What do you need? He’s good at drywall, mudding, carpentry, sales, cooking, cleaning . . .
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pouringmyartout
Sep 25, 2013 @ 09:01:30
I just want to take him to the zoo, maybe some Mexican food…
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benzeknees
Sep 25, 2013 @ 09:10:21
Oh, he’d love that – the spicier the better! He likes his food hot enough to make the roots of his hair sweat.
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pouringmyartout
Sep 25, 2013 @ 09:13:36
We got that here.
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Ron
Sep 25, 2013 @ 09:10:04
Wonderful story!
I believe in fate/destiny. And it’s quite obvious that you and Kelvin were met to be together. You are such a great couple because you know how LAUGH with each other.
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benzeknees
Sep 25, 2013 @ 09:11:29
Most of our laughing took place 17 years ago, but we do still laugh together sometimes!
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Mark Petruska
Sep 25, 2013 @ 09:52:25
Tricky situation. Reminds me of the scene in “When Harry Met Sally” where each of their dates got along better with each other than with them, and they ended up getting married. You can’t get angry with chemistry; sometimes these things just happen! I’m glad you and Kelvin found each other.
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benzeknees
Sep 26, 2013 @ 08:00:45
You may be right. I was determined not to undermine a friendship though, so it could have turned out so differently.
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behindthemaskofabuse
Sep 25, 2013 @ 11:21:38
Sorry your friendship did not survive, glad you met your Hubby. 🙂
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benzeknees
Sep 26, 2013 @ 08:01:33
I’m not sure the friendship was meant to survive.
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behindthemaskofabuse
Sep 26, 2013 @ 10:03:19
It sounds like you’re at peace with that. 🙂
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DiatribesAndOvations.com
Sep 25, 2013 @ 11:34:27
Ya done good. Kelvin is a much better friend than E could ever have been.
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benzeknees
Sep 26, 2013 @ 08:01:53
You are so right!
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John Erickson
Sep 25, 2013 @ 11:46:35
A serious point here – his name is Kelvin, as in the measure of temperature going up from absolute zero? To quote a pointy-eared friend of mine, “Fascinating”.
I love “how we met” stories. You know mine, I believe – the gay gent who struck out with me, then introduced me to my future wife, in whose bathroom I spent our 2nd day knowing each other, barfing my lungs out. And his was my first proposition for anything … well, “romantic”! 😯
Hmm … maybe an idea for you, a collection of weird “how we met” stories? 😉
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benzeknees
Sep 26, 2013 @ 08:03:47
I’m kind of liking the Life with Kelvin series so I think I’ll stick with it. I’m not a great interviewer.
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Elyse
Sep 25, 2013 @ 12:03:34
Alls well that ends well …
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benzeknees
Sep 26, 2013 @ 08:04:22
I guess we must have got something right, it’s been 17 years together.
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The Laughing Housewife
Sep 26, 2013 @ 04:37:57
So complicated, it could be a romcom – a comromcom, in fact 🙂
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benzeknees
Sep 26, 2013 @ 08:05:03
I think you might be right & all my little Life with Kelvin posts could be the weekly episodes.
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